You think you have
a sexual problem.
You don't.
Underneath it is something older. The anxiety that never fully drops. The flatness nothing fills. The sense of not being enough you have never said out loud. The stress, the emptiness, the lack of direction. It looks different in every man but it is always there.
The porn, the compulsive behaviour, the thing you have never told anyone. That is not the problem. That is what your mind built to cope with the problem. I work on the drivers. Clear those and the behaviour loses its reason to exist. Not suppressed. Gone.
What opens up after that is bigger than you expect.
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Men come to me
for two reasons.
You arrive with the same thing on the surface. A sexual habit you cannot break. Something you have tried to stop, failed to stop, and never told anyone about.
What sits underneath it is different for every man.
For some it is the anxiety that never fully drops. The stress that runs everything regardless of what is going on externally. The overwhelm they cannot explain.
For others it is a deeper emptiness. No drive. No direction. Going through the motions but not actually living. Boredom that nothing fills.
For others it is the quiet stuff. The not feeling enough. The loneliness inside relationships. The version of themselves they stopped believing existed.
You do not always arrive knowing this. You arrive thinking you just need to fix the behaviour. What we discover together is what has been driving it all along. That is what we work on. And that is what changes everything.
Men come to me with things they have never said out loud to anyone. Porn compulsion, escort use, fetishes they carry in silence, compulsive sexual behaviour, attraction patterns they do not understand, fantasy obsession they cannot switch off. Whatever it is, I have heard it. Nothing you bring will surprise me and nothing leaves the session.
The man who keeps going back
You have promised yourself last time more times than you can count. You understand why you do it. You have tried to stop. It comes back anyway. That is not weakness. That is a subconscious driver that no amount of willpower can reach.
The man living a double life
On the outside everything looks fine. On the inside you are carrying something nobody knows about. You have never told anyone. You are not looking for someone to help you manage it. You want it gone.
The man who cannot find his drive
You are functioning. Going to work, handling responsibilities, keeping it together. But underneath there is a flatness you cannot shake. No real direction. Nothing that excites you. You are living but not building anything.
The man anxiety is running
It is always there. Underneath work, relationships, the future. You cope, you push through, you keep going. But the baseline never drops and you have stopped believing it ever will.
The man who has never felt enough
Not good enough, not desirable enough, not worth investing in. You have never said it out loud but it has been running quietly underneath everything for a very long time.
The man running on empty
Stressed, overloaded, overwhelmed. You are giving everything to everyone and there is nothing left. The behaviour is the one place you get to switch off. And the shame afterwards makes everything worse.
I have sat exactly
where you are sitting.
- ICF Accredited Life Coach
- Qualified Counsellor
- Mind Shifting Coach
- NLP Trained
- Author — The Power of One Deep Breath
- 6 years coaching and counselling men 1:1
Not theoretically. Not from reading about it. I lived it.
It started in high school. Sexual curiosity, social pressure, learning fast what kind of man I was supposed to be. Porn was part of it from early on, shaping how I saw women, relationships, and what I thought I was supposed to want. My friends were chasing girls, the music glorified it, the films made it look like the measure of a man. So I followed. I performed. I became the version of myself that fitted in.
That became the mission. Pursuing girls for sexual pleasure was what we lived for. It was all we talked about, all we chased. My mind got programmed that way through habit and influence and I did not even question it. But underneath the pursuit was something I could not name at the time. Every encounter was not really about pleasure. It was about approval. Validation. Proof that I was desirable, that I was enough. Comparison with other guys fed insecurities I never admitted to anyone. Each time was supposed to silence that voice. It never did for long.
Relationships and commitment held no value for me. When something real came along I pushed it away. I was not built for it. Or so I believed.
And while all of that was happening, I was not chasing anything that actually mattered. Not my purpose. Not my future. Not any real understanding of who I was or what I was capable of. I settled. Comfortable within the identity and the limited beliefs I had built around myself. Jobwise, careerwise, in every direction. It never crossed my mind to go for something bigger. That version of me did not exist yet.
Then came the point where I began walking away from that lifestyle. But the root was still there. I had not touched it. I had just removed the behaviour it was using. So it found another outlet. For two to three years a food addiction took hold. Different behaviour, same drivers underneath. The insecurities I had never named. The not feeling enough I had never addressed. The emptiness that the previous lifestyle had been masking for years. I had stopped one behaviour but the roots it was growing from were still completely intact. So they grew something else.
It was only as I got older, through new experiences and new environments, that I began to see things differently. I started to see the value in relationships. But I also had to face what I had built in myself. The mindset I had towards women. The patterns I had been running for years. The beliefs about who I was and what I deserved. That did not unravel on its own. It took work. Real work.
Eventually that search led me to train formally as a counsellor. Three years of study. And as part of that training I completed 40 therapy sessions on one problem I had been carrying for years.
Forty sessions. It never moved.
I was not failing therapy. Therapy was working at the ceiling of what it could reach. So I kept searching. I developed the Eye to Eye Method, qualified as an accredited life coach, studied NLP. Each step got closer to what was actually driving it.
Then I found Mind Shifting. One session. The problem I had spent 40 sessions circling cleared. Not managed. Not understood better. Gone.
That moment changed everything. Not just because the problem cleared. Because it showed me what was possible for every man who had been told that awareness was the best he could hope for.
Whatever you are carrying, it can be overcome. Not eventually. At the root. That is what we do here.
Why everything you have tried
has not worked. And what does.
Most approaches to this problem speak to the conscious mind. Therapy builds awareness. Meditation creates calm. Affirmations attempt to overwrite the belief. Coaching gives you strategies. All of them have value. None of them reach the place where the problem actually lives.
Every belief, every pattern, every emotional wound is stored across four levels of awareness simultaneously. Not just in your thoughts. In your mental images, your emotions and your physical body sensations all at once. To achieve true and lasting transformation, healing must occur through all four levels of awareness. This is why you can understand a problem completely, talk about it for years, and still not be able to stop. Understanding only addresses one level. The other three are still running underneath, untouched.
This is where talk therapy lives. It can build awareness but awareness of a problem and dissolving it are completely different things. Knowing why you do something has never been enough to stop it.
Frozen snapshots from moments that were never fully processed. Scenes stored in the mind that carry an emotional charge which keeps getting reactivated in the present.
The feeling charge attached to the belief or memory. This is what gives the behaviour its pull. Until that charge is released at the source, the behaviour keeps returning regardless of how much you understand it.
Where the emotion lives physically. Beliefs are not just stored in the mind. They are stored in the nervous system. Until the body releases what it is holding, nothing fully shifts.
The subconscious controls the nervous system. The nervous system controls behaviour, emotions and thought. Until the subconscious is cleared, you remain in the same loop. Reacting to old programming rather than choosing something new.
This is why partial approaches produce partial results. Talk therapy targets thoughts. Breathwork targets the body. Emotional release work touches feelings. Each one reaches one level. Mind Shifting and the Eye to Eye Method work across all four simultaneously. That is what makes complete and lasting change possible.
Fights the behaviour, never the cause. Like holding a beach ball underwater. The moment you relax your grip it shoots straight back up.
Thoughts, images, emotions and body sensations cleared at the same time. Not one at a time over months.
Reaches only the conscious mind. You can spend years building awareness and never shift the thing that is actually driving it.
Problems men have carried for years can clear in a single cycle. You know when it is gone. Not I think that helped. Certainty.
Monitor the surface behaviour. The belief driving it is completely untouched.
You do not narrate your history or sit in shame. What needs to surface, surfaces. What surfaces, clears. Nothing is dug up and left on the table.
Surface suppression. The root is still there. Give it two weeks and it resurfaces.
No daily affirmations to maintain the result. No willpower required to keep it at bay. The problem simply ceases to be a problem.
Targets one problem in isolation. Everything connected to it remains completely untouched.
One cleared belief affects everything connected to it. Confidence, relationships, drive, purpose, how you show up every day. One shift, many changes.
You do not need to identify the original root consciously. You do not need to relive the past or narrate your history. All that is needed is the present struggle and the feeling that comes with it. What needs to surface, surfaces. What surfaces, clears.
When it clears, men describe it as a sudden wave of lightness moving through their entire system. Not a gradual improvement. Not something to maintain. A shift. The belief is simply gone. The problem is no longer a problem.
Two methods.
One complete system.
By this point you understand why everything else has not worked. What follows is what does. Every session uses both methods. Together they reach all four levels of awareness and clear the problem completely. Not partially. Not temporarily. Completely.
Mind Shifting was developed by Stevie Kent. It is built on a simple but precise understanding of what a problem actually is.
A problem consists of a situation plus the negative thoughts and emotions you are having about that situation.
Because you have resisted these thoughts and emotions they have become stuck in your subconscious mind.
To completely clear a problem, we need to clear those stuck thoughts and emotions from your subconscious.
We do this by having you feel what needs to be felt and notice what needs to be noticed, until you are fully conscious of them. At that point they vanish.
Once there are no more negative thoughts and emotions, all that remains is the situation itself. And without them, it is impossible to experience that situation as a problem. The situation was never the problem. The thoughts and emotions you were having about it were.
Once that clears, Mind Shifting helps you figure out what, if anything, you want to do about the situation. Without all of that getting in the way.
The process follows a precise cycle every time:
- Define the problem as a clear specific statement
- Apply the method to that problem
- Check — is it still there? If yes, repeat until it is gone
This seems obvious. And yet almost no other approach actually does it. Therapy, life coaching, NLP, hypnotherapy — none of them verify whether anything shifted. Which means you can spend session after session without the problem ever actually clearing.
In Mind Shifting we do not move on until we know it is gone.
You do not need to explain your history or relive anything. All that is needed is a clear problem statement. The method does the rest.
Within Mind Shifting there are six specific techniques, each one designed for a different type of problem. Nothing is forced through a one size fits all process. Whatever you are carrying, there is a technique built specifically for it.
The six techniquesClears a specific presenting problem or recurring issue directly at the subconscious level. This is usually where we start.
Clears the limiting beliefs running underneath the behaviour and decision making. Not good enough. Not worthy. Not capable. Gone, not suppressed.
Clears false identities and outdated versions of self formed in response to old pain or conditioning. The mask, the performance, the version of you that fitted in.
Clears the emotional charge stored in past painful experiences without reliving or narrating the story. The charge dissolves. The memory loses its power.
Aligns the subconscious with a new desired reality. Clears the counter intentions and hidden resistances that silently prevent a man from building the life he actually wants.
Clears entire clusters of interconnected problems at once. Where multiple beliefs, emotions and patterns are tangled together, this technique reaches all of them simultaneously.
The Eye to Eye Method is something I developed specifically for sexual behaviour, buried shame and the unmet needs that drive compulsive patterns.
Every fantasy, every pull, every compulsive behaviour has a symbolic meaning. It is not random. It is a story the subconscious constructed around an unmet need. Eye to Eye shows you what it actually means and then clears it at the source.
You tell me the behaviour. That is all that is needed to start. What needs to surface will surface from there.
What the behaviour gives you. Excitement, relief, escape. The outer shell. Real, but not the whole story.
The real driver underneath. The longing to feel wanted, desirable, seen, valued, enough. The thing the behaviour was always trying to provide.
Often traced to an earlier moment. A wound that was never processed. A need that was never met. When this layer clears, the behaviour loses its purpose. Not suppressed. Gone.
OTOA.
Overcome This.
Overcome Anything.
That name came from the middle of my own struggle. In a moment where what I was facing felt bigger than anything else, I said it to myself: if I can overcome this, I can overcome anything. That became the philosophy and the standard every session is built around. Whatever you are carrying, it can be overcome. Not eventually. At the root.
You arrive wanting to fix one thing. What you discover across the three sessions is something bigger. The sexual behaviour was never the whole problem. It was the surface of something that had been running underneath for years. The programme is built to clear it completely and build something in its place.
How the programme works
There is no fixed agenda. You bring what you are carrying and we work through it.
Think of every problem, every belief, every behaviour as having a weight. Together they make up a load you have been carrying so long you stopped noticing how heavy it actually is.
Across the three sessions we work through it problem by problem, belief by belief, in the order they naturally surface. Each one cleared or significantly lightened before we move to the next. By the end of each session you leave lighter than you arrived.
What stays consistent is the direction. The weight gets lighter. By the final session you are working on the broader picture. Goals, purpose, relationships, the life you want to build now that what was blocking it has cleared.
You leave not just lighter.
You leave as yourself.
You can make a breakthrough in a session and then have nothing structured to work with until the next one. The Deep Why closes that gap. Between every session you are working through your own beliefs, identifying them and beginning to clear them using the same framework we use in session. It also includes a future goal visualisation tool so you are not just clearing what has been holding you back. You are actively building the vision of where you are going. It is not a worksheet. It is a method.
You may finish the three sessions and feel ready to move forward independently. But some want to keep building. New goals surface. New challenges come with a new chapter of life. A monthly session keeps that momentum going and ensures nothing that surfaces in the next chapter goes unaddressed.
Real men.
Real shifts.
"I reached out to Leon because I had been struggling with compulsive porn use for over a decade. I had tried everything. Therapy, hypnotherapy, psychedelics, group meetings, blockers. They helped to an extent but the behaviour was still there. I was nervous to reach out to Leon as the method was not something I had come across before. But he was very helpful in answering my questions and reassuring me. From the start of the first session I knew I was in safe hands. We worked together to clear stress, shame, negative self beliefs, trauma and other emotional charges. There were some things that had taken years in therapy that were cleared in about 5 minutes. It is really amazing. It has been over a week since our last session and I am seeing the benefits continue with lower and more manageable urges and more clarity on what I want from my life."
"I felt it was important to let the dust settle before reaching out as I wanted to make sure I was not just experiencing a fleeting moment of clarity. Our session was a genuine turning point. It provided me with a vision of an identity divorced from the issues that have shadowed me for twenty years. Since we spoke, the impulse to return to my old coping mechanisms regarding porn and redirected stress has been replaced by a much healthier internal narrative. I am genuinely surprised by the immediacy of this shift. I am finally confident that this is a lasting change."
"Leon was really easy to talk to and I felt I could be completely open with what I was struggling with. The techniques really tackle the problem at the root. I felt the difference in the awareness of my mind and my desires even after the first session. It was helping me make better decisions. A great way to get to the core reasons behind your actions and make a positive change moving forward. Thank you Leon, you helped me so much."
"I spoke to Leon about my addiction issues and took the 3 session programme. It massively helped in changing my mindset and thinking in regards to the problem and also the solution, focusing on what is most important to me personally. I was slightly sceptical that 3 sessions would work but there was an option of a further 2 if they did not. However that was not the case at all and I felt 3 was absolutely enough. He spoke to me on my level and understood my needs. Highly recommend and worth the fee."
Three ways to start.
1.5 hours. Most men feel a clear shift in the first session.
- 1.5 hour 1:1 online session
- Full clarity and goal setting at the close
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Three private 1:1 sessions spaced to fit around you.
- Three 1.5 hour 1:1 online sessions
- WhatsApp support between sessions
- Clear direction and goals set after each session
- Access to the Deep Why Method — use it between sessions to keep clearing what is underneath on your own
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Building the version of you that exists once what was blocking it has gone
£420 if booked separatelyFor the man who knows there is more than one layer to clear.
- Six 1.5 hour 1:1 online sessions
- WhatsApp support throughout
- Clear direction and goals set after each session
- Access to the Deep Why Method — use it between sessions to keep clearing what is underneath on your own
Most men clear the core pattern in the OTOA. This is for the man who wants to clear everything connected to it.
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Questions men ask
before they reach out.
If your question is not here, email me.
Completely. Nothing you share leaves the session. No records, no third parties, no judgement. Men come to me with things they have never told anyone. That stays between us.
Sessions are held on a video call. You do not need to prepare anything or know what to say in advance. We start with what you are carrying and work from there. You will not be asked to relive your history or explain yourself in detail. All that is needed is a clear description of what you are dealing with. The method does the rest. You may be surprised by how straightforward the process feels and how quickly something shifts.
No. For Mind Shifting all that is needed is a clear problem statement. For Eye to Eye you tell me the behaviour. That is it. Nothing is forced and nothing is left unresolved at the end of the session.
Therapy builds awareness of a problem. That awareness is real and valuable but it only reaches one level of the four where the problem is actually stored. Mind Shifting and Eye to Eye work at the subconscious level where the belief, the emotional charge and the behaviour actually live. That is why problems that have not moved in years of therapy can clear completely in a single session.
No. In fact most men who come to me have been carrying this for years. Some for decades. The length of time something has been present does not determine how quickly it can clear. What matters is reaching the right level. That is what these methods are built to do.
If you have a behaviour you cannot stop, a belief that keeps running, or something you have been carrying in silence that nothing else has touched, this is built for you. If you are not sure, email me. No pressure, no obligation.
Not necessarily. A single session is available and you will likely feel a clear shift in the first one. The three session programme exists because addressing one problem often reveals connected layers underneath. But you are never locked in.
Both. Many men come for compulsive sexual behaviour or porn. Others come for anxiety, stress, depression, mental blocks or limiting beliefs. The methods work across all of it because the process is the same regardless of what you are carrying.
No. I do not analyse your situation, tell you what to do or offer opinions on your choices. The work is not about guidance. It is about clearing. Once the belief, the emotional charge or the pattern that has been running underneath is gone, you do not need advice. The decisions that felt impossible become clear on their own. The direction you could not find simply shows up. That is not me giving you answers. That is what happens when the thing blocking your own clarity is no longer there.
Email me anyway. You do not need to be ready. You just need to be tired enough of where you are to take one small step. Nobody has to know you reached out.
You have been carrying
this long enough.
If you are reading this, you have probably been carrying this for years. Maybe decades. You have tried other things. You have come close to reaching out before and talked yourself out of it.
If you are reading this, you already know something needs to change.
One email. That is all it takes to start. We will have a conversation, and work out together whether this is the right next step for you. Nobody has to know you reached out. The first email is always the hardest part. After that it gets easier.